There’s one in every Family

I have not posted lately because we’ve had a bit of sad news in our family.  After several months of battling lung cancer, my Mother-in-law passed away on the 14th of this month. Evidently she developed a clot in her leg that moved up into her lung and there was nothing that could be done then.  My husband is still beating himself up and wondering what could have been done.  My poor Mother-in-law died thinking most of her children had abandoned her.  She actually told two of them that my husband was the only one that took care of her.  That just makes me sad and I promised my own mother that I would never treat her the way my MIL was treated.

The graveside service was last friday but even before the funeral, my sister in law who never went over there (or rarely anyways) to check on her mother has spent more time over there taking what she wants than when her mother was alive.  I told my husband that things seem to be disappearing from his mother’s house.  I just can’t believe how some people are when it comes to a loved one passing away.

I sometimes fear the same thing will happen when my grandmother passes or my own mom.  People will be more worried about what they get than actually grieving the loss.  It’s just sad….

None of the siblings offered up any money to handle the burial expenses either and the decision was made to do a cremation.  Only after it was too late did any of them speak up and say she was uncomfortable with cremation but said to go ahead and do that.  My husband called but the cremation had already been performed.  It will be interesting to see if anyone offers to help pay and what happens to the money they make selling off her possessions and donations made. 

It’s just sad how true colors come out in time of crisis.  I know one thing I’ve learned from this….we need to make our arrangements now and not leave anything to chance.

Early Evening

It’s tough getting older and not being able to stay out late like you use to.  I can remember staying out till 2 am and still being able to get up and go to work the next morning.  Times sure have changed, especially if you are not use to it.

Date night went fine.  Little boy cried when we left and ran up to his bed (he’s never done that) but my niece said that didn’t last very long and he was ready to play shortly after that.  About the only problem she had was that she had to clean up spilled soda that he’d knocked over with his Batman cape (because yes he had to change into his Batman costume).  She said he even changed his own underwear when it was time to go to bed and went to bed very willingly.

The Melting Pot was great.  It was very expensive especially when you add in some Love Martini’s and some Margarita’s.  Bad thing was it took 2 1/2 hours to eat it since it was a four course meal.  We missed the movie time we were shooting for which left us with nothing really to do.  Husband wanted to go to a bar but I was like…why?  I have totally lost interest in going to a bar unless there is a big group going or at least another couple.  The next movie showing at any theater was over an hour away so we decided to just stop by the house and check on everything then go back out and catch the movie.  We got home.  Everything was fine.  Ally was piled up on our bed watching Ironman. 

Do you think we got back out and went to the movie?  Nope.  How sad.  Here we had an all night babysitter and we were home by 9:30!  LOL  Husband decided he didn’t want to get back out at 10:30 to go see a movie.  I mentioned to my niece did she want to go see it with me then decided two gals didn’t need to be out by thereselves that late by ourselves and we finished watching Ironman then went to bed.

My niece is still in town this weekend so I mentioned to my sister that if she wanted to she could baby sit again and this time we’d plan our evening  a little better.  Not sure yet if she will but husband has already been planning were he wants to go eat….We’ll see.  Hopefully this time I’ll get to see a movie.

Date Night

Since daycare doesn’t do date night anymore, my mother-in-law has been sick, and my mom lives so far away and is not comfortable with little boy spending the night because she doesn’t see well, we haven’t really had a night to ourselves since last summer. I truly don’t trust very many people with my son.  I’m a little overly protective.  This summer my niece and nephew from the lower part of the state are up here visiting and I had this bright idea that my niece could babysit and spend the night. She just turned 14. Everyone agreed (not sure how much it’s going to cost me) and I go pick her up from my mom’s later this afternoon. Husband is taking me to the Melting Pot which is a fondue restaurant. Naturally a place with open flames would not be good place to take a little boy so we have not gotten to go there since it opened.  Husband and I really need a night out and I’m really looking forward to it.

Now little boy doesn’t know his cousin very well because we only see them a couple of times a year and he sometimes starts off shy with strangers but I’m hoping he’ll adjust and not be upset that we’ve left him.  My niece has never babysat before either but I think as long as they watch movies and she’ll play with him some it will be fine.  I guess we’ll see?

Coon Skin Cat

When I went to San Antonio last week for our annual conference, I wanted to bring little boy back something from that area. I remember last time I was there I brought my nephew back a coon skin cap like Davy Crockett so I thought since little boy likes hats that maybe he’d get a kick out of it. No such luck. He was more excited about the Buzz Lightyear and Woody soft sculpture dolls I bought at the Disney store.

But at least someone liked the cap.

My first night home, Bubba must have gone into little boy’s room and hunted him a racoon. He then brought it to my bed where he proceeded to attack it further then threw it in the floor where he lay next to it….daring it to move. Dixie got in on the act as well. Imagine my surprise to wake up in the dark and see something large and hairy looking in my bed being killed by my silly cats.

Scrapbook Destruction

It’s a terrible feeling when the scrapbook pages you worked so hard on and SOMEONE SEEMED to enjoy looking at them are suddenly de-constructed because SOMEONE liked the stickers…..

This is what I found laying in the floor of my craft room one afternoon. Little boy and I were sitting out front when husband came home from work and he asked if I’d been upstairs to my craft room yet…..Now I know why! Little boy had been looking at my album that morning and evidently he decided he wanted those batman and spiderman stickers….so he took the pages apart. Luckily nothing was torn and I SHOULD be able to put them back together.